Mankind's Greatest Struggle

Scripture speaks a lot about the importance of humility and pride. Have you ever wondered why? I'll be honest- I didn't really get it for much of my walk with Jesus. But through some pain and a lot of trials I am learning. Based on all those things I've experienced I believe the call to humility is for our growth as well as our relationships. Relationships are what the Bible, and our God is all about. He didn't just create one or two humans and stop there; He created countless humans throughout the years. And He tells us repeatedly what the key is to loving one another in that one word- humility. 

Pride keeps us defensive; it is that voice that says, "We're enemies" or "No one has been through what I have!" It provides the excuses for the wrongs we do to one another. It poofs us up like pillows when that voice of God convicts us in any way. Defensiveness keeps us from hearing, truly hearing what other people have to say to us and therefore is a barrier to relational healing. When we can't listen, we can't be open-hearted to our fellow man. A closed heart is most destructive to our relationships, also quenching own growth. 

Humility, on the other hand, keeps our hearts open. We have no reason to defend ourselves when we accept our own flawed state and the possibilities for us to make a mess of anything. We have no reason to get angry with those who confront us when we realize that it is a good thing that not everyone thinks like us. When we look for other perspectives and views outside what's in our own heads or agrees with us, we blossom. God uses community to shape us, so we need to be willing to speak up and listen too. But people need to feel safe to be honest with us, and even more safe to take feedback from us. They need to know we mean it in love and that we're on equal ground. 

In my experience, relationships with people who refuse to see themselves as others see them are the most miserable. They live with no concern for how they impact others because they are blinded to the pain they cause. Maybe some of them see it but feel stuck because of pride. But we all need to feel we have a voice - that our feelings and our perceptions matter. And to God they do. If we truly strive to be like Him, we will strive to make others feel safe to share their insight with us. 

The healthiest relationships are those where both parties listen to one another and are open to changing where it is necessary. It's not about blaming or pointing fingers but about mattering to one another. If this country is to change and this world is impacted by us in good ways, then we as individuals have to start by taking responsibility for our own mindsets and actions. The more we listen to God's convictions, the more we're willing to hear from other humans too. 

Life is not a competition. Jesus meant it to be a partnership with him and with other people. But the first step is acceptance our own state and dropping our walls of pride. If we truly believe there is no condemnation in Christ, then our walls of defense make no sense in the kingdom of God.